Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Sleeping :: Gray Area.

I'm coming to you all this morning in a state of semi-alertness, after a long and very unrestful night.  Well, after many long and unrestful nights actually.

Simon has decided that sleeping is quite frankly, for the birds.  It's very hard to get him to go to fall asleep at night, he will not fall asleep on his own, he'll lay for a few minutes and then cry.  It's not a fuss either, it's a full blown cry.  I cannot handle that.  So, we rock him, hold him, and he'll fall asleep.  We put him down, sound asleep, and twenty minutes later we hear the sweet little sound of his voice.  Or his ordinarily sweet voice, except when he needs to be sleeping.  It hasn't always been like this, though.  I tried really hard from the beginning to have him awake after feeding, and fall asleep on his own.  He was great at it. Was being the key word there. 

Let's review a little.  About the time he was ten or twelve weeks old I jumped on the Moms On Call bandwagon (thank you Twitter and Blogland) and believe it or not, Simon started sleeping eight to ten hours, all night long.  I was ecstatic.  Kirsten was not a good sleeper (still isn't, that's another post for another day).  I wanted to tell the world, "My baby is sleeping through the night!"  I mean really, I think I told the gas station attendant.  I told the grocery store boy helping me carry my bags to the car.  I somehow figured out a way to pop that little tidbit into the conversation I had with the lady on the street walking her dog.  I was in a state of bliss.  At that point Kirsten was sleeping well too, which meant Peter and I were sleeping all night long.

That lasted a few glorious weeks, and then the little man got Thrush.  Goodbye restful nights!  Okay, so he pretty quickly got over the Thrush (thank goodness), but wasn't sleeping well.  Give it a week or so, he got a cold.  Then, an ear infection.  Shortly after his antibiotics were gone he started teething and before we knew it two little teeth popped through on the bottom.  Obviously, teeth coming in equals poor sleeping.

So, that brings us to last week, just after the teeth, when we took him in for this three week post-ear infection check.  The damn infection is still there.  So, they put him on Azithromycin (Z pack) to try and get the ear infection cleared up.  Our doctor gave us the go ahead to try Ibuprofen (we had much better luck with that for Kirsten than Tylenol), which resulted in a little better sleep for a few nights.  But, not really.  I mean better sleep means he slept for four hours or so by himself.

So friends, I'm desperate.  I'm tired.  Peter's tired.  For goodness sake Simon has to be tired, right?  We all need some sleep.  I've tried many methods with Kirsten, and some with Simon but I'm really asking for any input you might have.  What worked/works for you?  Simon's five months old, a super happy and cheerful baby, very easy going.  He's currently nursing four times during the day (every four hours or so, but not on a rigid schedule), and then usually once during the night.  No solids yet.  He sleeps in the office, in a pack and play with a white noise machine.  Eventually we want them to share a bedroom, and have it all set up and ready to go. I'm idealistically waiting until he's sleeping through the night consistently (ha) to put him in there.

I don't mind a little crying and sleep training, but I'm not good at a rigid schedule.  He's my baby, and I do love to rock him and hold him.  I can't handle letting him cry at night if there is any sliver of a doubt in my mind that he may be in pain (from teeth or sickness).

I realize why God made babies so darn precious and sweet, because there's no way you can hold a grudge against something this adorable, no matter how freaking tired you are.  Simon, we love you more than words can say, and honestly I'd be okay if I had to wake up every night for the rest of your eighteen years you'll be living here.  But really, I'll probably be a more fun momma if you do let me get some sleep...soon.

10 comments:

Katie @ Loves of Life said...

Oh my gosh, the hat on him is to cute and the swing picture. I have NO advice on sleeping, as you know I was no expert in this field either. They just do it when they want to. And until then, it's torture. HA. Hence was my experience anyway ;) Hope it gets better soon!

Miss Chelsea said...

I have no advice, but good luck. That sounds like no fun at all

The Luedtke Family said...

I'd say let the ear infection clear up first. Ear pain is the worst, have you ever had an ear infection? The pain is uncomfortable, like you want to stab an ice pick in your ear. Then, it must drain. Like, running down your throat or a clicking sound when you swallow. Laying down at night is not fun.

After the ear is cleared up, see how he is sleeping. Then, keep trying whatever it takes.

Maybe he is ready for food.

Best of luck to you, tired family!

Ashley said...

I feel like I wrote this myself--thrush, 2 ear infections, teething, NO SLEEP. I feel your pain. Starting at about four months T did the same thing and would wake up immediately when we put him down. I've slept many nights and days in the rocking chair with him held semi-upright. I think the ear infections are the biggest culprit, but my guess is also that the whole thing was kicked off by a wakeful 4-month period. There's a good article on kellymom here. Now that he's 9 months, we've seen a huge improvement in sleep with the ear infections gone. Hang in there. Keep doing what you're doing, and follow your instincts!

Marie@PoutyPinkPrincess said...

Oh my...it is a good thing he is so darn cute! Good luck though!

Laura said...

He is too cute.

That said... ;) I'm sorry you're not getting much sleep. I don't have any advice, but hopefully he finds sleep to be a fun thing soon. :)

Katie said...

You're totally right on about the "good thing God made them cute" thing... The sleep thing is soooo difficult!! I am sure you have already tried it but how about the swing? Whenever Piper is refusing sleep, I wrap her up all tight and stick her in the swing. I know it isn't the best thing to do but it usually works for us. That's my only idea, I am not a "cry it out" fan either. I am so sorry you guys aren't sleeping!! I hope it is just a phase and he will be sleeping well again SOON!!

World of Waxes said...

Hi. Fisrt off wanted to let you know that I also live in the mid west and have a 3 month old baby boy! Just stumbled across your blog. We are also trying to get more sleep. He sometimes still wakes 2 times a night. Have you heard of the dream feed? Its where you sneak in a feeding before you go to bed so they will hopefully sleep 6 hours after that.

Kat said...

wakeful 4 months? This happened to us with Peanut as well!

LG said...

Oh Bless your heart! We just battled the ear infections too. I hate them. They always sneak up and interupt sleep!